What would you add to the extensive history of sexism in popular music, including emo that is supposedly anti-macho? The girlfriend is both the enemy and the prize to be won, as seen in songs by Adam Lazarra and his band Taking Back Sundays or violent songs by Chris Conley and his band Saves the Day. He sings about sawing off flesh from a woman’s thighs “If I could somehow make you mine.” John Lennon talked about hitting his first wife in “Getting Better” (“I used to be cruel to my woman. I beat her and kept her apart from the things that she loved.”) Mick Jagger sings about a man raping a young black slave in “Brown Sugar.” In his song “Kim” Eminem says, “Sit down bitch. If you move again I’ll beat the shit out of you,” an exceptionally hateful and violent song—search the lyrics online.
Matthew Reyes, “Why Did We Justify Misogyny in the Emo Scene?” The Earlier Stuff, November 4, 2016.