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Helicopter Parenting in the Romanian film “Graduation”

The Romanian film Graduation (2016) is an extreme example of a helicopter parent. Eliza is a high school student, 18, whose surgeon father, Romeo, has done everything to get her out of Romania and to the UK, where she has a scholarship to study psychology at Cambridge Universit–depending on her last test results. Romeo gave her tutoring lessons in English since she was a little girl and encouraged her to enter various academic competitions. Her mother, Magda, says she’ll go with her daughter to England and cook for her. “In the dormitory?” her husband asks. uption is still problematic: Other doctors expect bribes, but he doesn’t take them. His mother tells him, “You babied her, never let her deal with any trouble.” Romeo tells his mother, “She can’t handle life here,” thinking England is more “civilized” and “normal,” in comparison to Romania where he has no hope of being able to make changes. He tells Eliza that he and her mother decided to move back from the West in 1991 because “We thought things would change, we thought we’d move mountains. We didn’t move anything” after the fall of communism and continuation of corruption. Romeo is willing to violate his principles with bribes and favors that he wants Eliza to escape, to insure that Eliza gets her scholarship.

Are young adults over-protected?

A college senior reports five years after entering CSUC: Almost all the kids that age (first entering college) here at CSU Chico that I’ve met (and those a few years in) have never held a job, never tried for one, and do not have even the most basic skill set for taking fundamental care for themselves and their living situation. And mind you, I’m absolutely not judging, I’m just amazed and horrified because they deserve to have been better prepared for life than that.  I think it is/was the “helicopter parents,” as you described them; protecting them rather than preparing them for life, during their adolescence.